If you have recently divorced, the holiday season can be a bittersweet
time for your children. While this time of year is happy for many, the
holidays can have an adverse effect on children of divorced parents, magnifying
feelings of loneliness. Fortunately, there are several things that parents
can do to help their children cope with the tumultuous change.
1. Make new traditions: The change in routine can be one of the most difficult adjustments for
children after their parents have separated. They will likely miss any
traditions that your family may have had prior to your
divorce. It is important that you make an effort to create new traditions with
your children in order to reinforce the new routine and show them that
the holidays can still be enjoyable, even if they are different from prior years.
2. Do not compete with gifts: Parents who have recently split tend to fall into the trap of giving extravagant
gifts in a way to win the favor of their children or prove they are better
than the other parent. This is dangerous, as it can breed feelings of
guilt and pressure your children into choosing a side. Instead, divide
your child’s wish list equally with the other parent. This will
let your kids know that both parents still love them, reducing tensions
and allowing them to focus on enjoying their together.
3. Allow your kids to speak their mind: Just as you are likely still feeling the sting of divorce, your children
will probably be dealing with some strong emotions. If you haven’t
already, sit down with them and listen to what they have to say. Even
though you may not agree with their point of view, allowing them the opportunity
to freely express their feelings can be beneficial to helping them cope.
4. Schedule enough time for both parents: When children are forced to divide their time between two separate households
on a holiday, they could be left feeling unsatisfied. Allow your children
to spend time with both parents equally this holiday season by scheduling
separate days to spend with each parent.
5. Love your kids more than hating the other parent: The holiday season should be about you spending quality time with your
kids and strengthening the bond you share, not tearing down their relationship
with your ex-spouse. When you are with your kids, refrain from speaking
negatively of the other parent in their presence. Even though you may
no longer love their mother or father, it is highly likely that they still do.
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